33 Self-Talk Phrases to Help You
Turn Your Stress into Success
When you're in the middle of a
stressful situation, it can be challenging to shift your
thinking to thoughts that help you. Negative emotions set in and you
end up in the fight, flight, or freeze mode, rather than flow.
Consciously shifting your thinking and slowing down your breathing
are two of the fastest ways to turn stress
into success and get back into the flow.
Below is a list of 33 positive
statements. Some I've collected from clients and colleagues. Others
I've written, and some you'll recognize from mainstream culture.
Some may feel childish or naive to your ego, but will address the
unconscious aspects of your mind in the midst of stress.
Look for the statements that jump
out at you and memorize them. Repeat the statements to yourself
slowly with awareness and keep repeating them with positive
expectation and positive feelings. As you're directing your mind, it
will go to work on finding more successful solutions for you. Watch
for them; the answers are on their way.
eventually change. This too shall pass.
How much will
this matter 100 years from now? 10 years? 10 days? Tomorrow?
How can I make
the most of this situation right now? How can I let this serve
It could be
worse. At least Iím not... (exaggerate something really awful to
the point of being funny)
Who can I
bless, say a prayer for, or help right now who has it worse than
me? "There but for the grace of God go I."
I always have
a choice about the way I think about this and what I choose to
I know thereís
something funny in this somewhere. Who would see the humor in
this and what would they say? Iíll call them right now. [Find a
laughter buddy, and even better a laughter team if you donít
already have one.]
It's not what happens to me that's
important; it's what I think and do about what happens that
makes the difference. Right now I choose to...
It canít get
any worse, so that must mean itís only going to get better.
If I knew what
one of the gifts in this could be, it might beÖ
Who do I love?
What am I grateful for? What am I passionate about? [Make a list
of 10 for each question. If you canít think of any, call a
friend and ask for help.]
this feels like it's really stressing me out, I'm still
breathing right now; I can still choose my thoughts, and I can
still smile for 16 seconds and flood my body with endorphins.
If life were
ideal, right now Iíd be thinking __________, Iíd be feeling
__________, Iíd be doing __________ [Let yourself dream for a
minute and smile while youíre doing it. Research shows your
brain doesnít know the difference between what is real and what
is imagined and it goes to work on what you tell it most often
with emotion - positive or negative. Smiling activates the
have happened to me and they will happen again. One of the best
things thatís happened in my life is __________;
have gotten through this and eventually I will too...
It is what it is. I feel what
I feel. I feel mad (sad, scared, ashamed, guilty...) and I let
that be okay and breathe through it.
What is my intuition telling
me? What inspired actions can I take right now?
still here; I must have important things left to do.
I can do all things through (Christ, Buddha,
Mohammed, Love, Spirit, Source, God), which strengthens me.
I release and I let go, I am only here for Love
(God, to serve...) [Choose something positive that is greater
Someday, we'll look back on this, laugh nervously
and change the subject.
Iím going to laugh out loud for one minute for
absolutely no reason. [Laughter, even fake laughter releases
endorphins in the body.]
I might as
well laugh; I can always cry later.
Click here to take a 30-second laughter break
One of the
funniest stories (memories, jokes, one-liners) I've ever heard
people who are waiting for me to ask for their help. I release
my pride and fear and ask for help.
What is a
positive message in this for me?
I am strong, I am flexible, I
am resilient and I will get through this.
I slowly count
to 10 and take a walk. (Movement helps release negative energy.]
I can slow
down my breathing right now. I take 10 deep slow, long breaths
in through my nose, out through my mouth. I'll get through this.
always the way I think it is, there might be another perspective
I havenít seen yet. Who would have a completely different
positive take on this? What would they say?
Breathing in I
calm myself, Breathing out I smile. [From Thich Nhat Hanh,
Peace is Every Step]
What would Dr.
Phil say? (or Oprah? Your favorite comedian/ne? Someone you
admire? What would the dog do? (Humor counts.)
Thank you! [Direct your Inner Guide.]
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Mary Marcdante is a communication and stress management expert,
inspirational author, and speaker. She has inspired and educated
over 500,000 people at 1500 conferences for clients around the
world. She is a contributing author to five best-selling Chicken
Soup for the Soul books and the author of Living with
My Mother, My Friend.
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